“I haven’t had an orgasm without doing it myself ever,” she wrote. “I’ve always wondered what it would feel like to have one without touching myself.”
She was responding to an ad I had posted specifically for women who had trouble experiencing an orgasm without taking matters into their own hands. After giving many massages, I came to realize how much of a frustration this is for many women. There can be many barriers for a woman and a massage is the perfect way to begin to work toward orgasmic freedom.
A massage is about relaxing the body and the mind and getting in touch with the sensations in your body. That is a real massage, not the random rubbing around some people try to pass off as a massage. An erotic massage or sensual massage takes things further and focuses on bringing sexual pleasure.
Deborah was the woman on the other end of the email. She was definitely interested in the experience and wanted to know more. I explained to her my process and then waited for a response. It was a day later when I heard back. She was still very interested. I could almost hear the yearning for release in her words. She told me a little about herself. 53, married, professional and sexually frustrated most of the time.