There was a stretch during which I was meeting most of the women I dated on OK Cupid. One day, a couple of years ago, I logged onto OKC to discover a note from a woman named Nancy who was intensely curious about my lifestyle. She explained that she had a Catholic upbringing and simply had too much guilt to do the casual/non-monogamous sex thing, or at least she was working on getting over that guilt in an attempt to do it. She wanted to know how I could live with myself – well, that’s grossly over-paraphrasing, but you get the idea.
We messaged a bit and I told her a bit about my worldview, and inquired about hers. We agreed to meet for lunch, simply to continue the discussion, but she was very clear that it would be a platonic encounter only and not lead to anything. I didn’t mind – any encounter is fun – so I readily agreed.
Over lunch we continued the conversation. Nancy was intrigued and a bit jealous that I could set aside the social mores in which we reside and simply live in the moment doing what felt good. The irony is she was single and about my age, so there was literally nothing holding her back from exercising her carnal pleasures. Except her own internal roadblocks.