Thoughts on eroticism and sex
I have thought a lot about eroticism and sex, but for professional reasons I even “had“ to do it. In short, I am not yet 30, I have worked in erotic chats for some years as a support. There were BDSM chats and Vanilla sex chats. When I think about eroticism here, I consciously renounce the concepts of man and woman and use only humans or humans. There is a special reason for this, many complain about the lack of humanity, yet people treat each other in sex and eroticism, often as objects, expectations or compensators. Often people are denied the mutual responsibility, the respect, the respect, the empathy, the mutual pleasure-giving, the humor and the joy of each other. Instead, they demand that their counterparts give it fulfillment, of lust, power, desire, passion and ecstasy, only because they need it and want it. If the other person can not do it, wants it or does not feel it, he will be persuaded with all registers. Do not grab the honest and courting. The legitimate and also beautiful, exciting and humorous. Many people like to grasp lies, bad faith, false promises, misrepresent themselves, all on the grounds that they want or have to satisfy their desire, their passion, their needs. If these remedies do not help either, their counterpart is quickly thought, spoken and written inferior. Frigide, not potent, arrogant, those are the nicest thoughts. In the ugliest cases, violence is resorted to, or another opponent is sought, one of whom knows it is defenseless. Everything on the grounds that they are the instincts. Funny that these drives are particularly active when it comes to their own egoism, their own advantages, their own lust, their own passion. But these impulses often fail when it comes to consideration, compassion, respect and giving. People use eroticism and sex to manipulate, to confirm their power, to achieve goals that have nothing to do with sex and eroticism. Still, most seek fulfillment in sex and erotic, longing for it. This yearning does not diminish, the more they try to be selfish, this thirst, this hunger is more and more, eroticism is not enjoyed in the end, it is devoured without that you had a rudimentary enjoyment. Exactly after this enjoyment, this special pleasure that can make any positive cell in one vibrate and shake, that makes us dream, long and crave, for eroticism and sex. You do not get it and yawn more and more after him.
So sex and eroticism are a perfect reflection of society for me. Everyone, really Everyone is responsible for us humans for our frustration, our non-satisfaction, our lack of the particular, our boredom, our not living life, only not ourselves. Who is poor does not have to be unhappy and frustrated and who is rich does not have to, who is single does not have to be unhappy and frustrated and who is not a single does not have to. Especially, our level of frustration increases when we see others happy, satisfied. The laugh and the joy of life. Instead of being inspired by them, we are looking for clues to break their laughter and joy. With which we can justify that they are to blame for our frustration with which we rise to the moral better.
It is no different in eroticism and sex, why work on ourselves. The other one’s guilty, anyway. We give to the media, the porn industry, the sex industry, the emancipates, the machos, the softies, the romantics … blame that we do not come to this special, wonderfully exciting pleasure of eroticism and sex. Why? If you want to enjoy a special meal, you must also make the effort to cook it, or buy it. If you want to live well (I do not mean luxurious), you have to design your home. It requires commitment, feeling, creativity, being open to new things. It takes that one learns, acquires knowledge, etc. Only in the erotic and sex, we mean people it is enough to be born with a drive that makes us all to absolute experts and do everything right in the field. That’s why only what we think is good and right, can only be good, cool and right. Everything else is nonsense. Sex and erotic are just for consumption, so we make the person we want to have sex into a consumer object. Not only do we cheat the person we want to experience eroticism and sex with, we cheat ourselves. We are doing this, not only since the porn, internet, television era. Today, only a lot of publicity because news spread faster and people have the opportunity to publicly talk about it anonymously and act. Thus, the saying that sex and eroticism are the most beautiful trivial thing in the world, suddenly a different meaning, because the word trivial, seems more important than the word to be beautiful. Beautiful is only there as an alibi. So that we can convince ourselves that we do not treat sex and eroticism as an unimportant consumer good. It is only important to us to quickly get some satisfaction with it. Satisfaction of pride, ego, power. Or compensating Or compensating for boredom, frustration, feeling insignificant. At best, we use sex and eroticism to calm an instinct. Maybe, that’s just a thought, should we understand sex and erotic as a beautiful and unique precious gift. That one should love and care for. To be pleased that brings to a deepest fulfillment, unique unparalleled enjoyment, great humor, all-encompassing excitement. A gift that we prepare each other. With which we grow, which makes us curious to discover new things, to learn to learn. Our own initiative awakens us to inform us that we enjoy giving, exciting, getting to know, caring for what makes him happy, exciting and exciting. To listen to him, if it is something that does not fit in our grid. It does not drive anyone hurting, accepting boundaries, if you do not know them, asking them. That we do not use to humiliate others (unless it is agreed, see BDSM), to hurt or abuse. That we do not use to achieve goals. That causes us to rejoice, trust, rejoice, reccommend, honor, not only take but also trust, and thus fall, attention and human dignity to write in big letters. Sex and eroticism with these conditions can be anything. Bdsm, tantra, dao erotic, vanilla, dirty, hot, playful, romantic, porn …, mostly endless fun, excitement and joy!