It was with Dylan, the PhD teaching assistant of Pakistani decent that I fell in love with in college. Dylan was my first (see my profile for the story of how we met, fell in love, and how I lost my virginity), and we both grew up in abusive households. He knew all about my kinks developed from my trauma.
As a very young girl, I was coerced into sexual encounters multiple times with a family friend who used seduction, gaslighting, manipulation, and force to sexually abuse me. My confused affection for my abuser, coupled with other corporal and sexual abuse from my family led to an adult sexual fetish with control, consent, and submissive empowerment in the bedroom. My nature also gives me an insatiable sex drive and a free spirited, nonjudgmental approach to sex. I’m poly, pansexual, and sexually liberal.