People tend to lie when they enter a new relationship. Oh, I clean all the time. Oh, I’m not jealous. Oh, I don’t have anger problems. I don’t have a drinking problem! Right? We all do it and then over time, our truth leaks out. Turns out you really ARE a slob or a jerk or whatever.
For me, my lie was that I really, really wanted an open relationship. I am happiest when I am free to fuck around, but still, at the end of the day, I have my loyalty to my partner. I don’t go on vacations with the women I fuck. I don’t get dinner or hang out with them. It’s like if you love horror movies, but your wife doesn’t. You will find a friend to see horror movies with. Your wife won’t resent you. She will be glad you have that friend. When it comes to non-monongamous relationships, though, we have a problem with that sort of behavior. *Well, you don’t LIKE anal, so I found someone who I can fuck in the ass!* Or … *well, you don’t LIKE face fucking, so I found someone who I can face fuck.* Doesn’t mean I love you any less. I’m not going to leave you for my horror movie friend. I’m not going to leave you for my face fucking friend, either.