My gf stumbled on reddit stories quite awhile ago and has been trying out the different "flavors" if you will. She and I have experimented with D/s in the past, both ways, but she has always had an acts of service streak in her anyway. I have tried explaining to her that D/s is what one makes of it, it doesn't have to be the full on whips and chains and slave mentality, but it wasn't until she stumbled on all the D/s stories on Reddit did it finally sink in.
So she sends me a snapchat at work one day telling me all this and that she wants to experiment with this side of herself. She laid out some very basic and minimal ground rules, no pulling out of her and straight in her mouth, she's not into pain….that was it. So that night we messed around with it some. The next day at work she told me via snapchat I was "too nice and forgiving" and that she wanted more forceful….she wanted to be used(her words). I told her I could do that, but that side of myself scared me. She told me to bring it on.