I’m going to preface this entire post with acknowledging that a lot of how I’ve dealt and processed it not necessarily is not the “healthiest”.
My wife and I met through a mutual friend. We began our relationship long distance, as she was from my area back home and I was stationed on the east coast. After 4 months of texting and calling she drove out for a long weekend. 3 months later I fly home and find out she fucked her married neighbor in her driveway one night after she got off work. She finished him off by opening the door, crawling out real fast, and sucking him off before pulling up her scrub bottoms (nurse) and going inside. It pissed me off but we stayed together.
A few months later she flew back out to do job interviews before moving across country. She left her phone in the car during her second interview I drove her to and I went through it, to find her sexting and exchanging masturbation pics with her ex-husband… texts that were sent the night before her flight. Again, infuriated but I fucked out my aggression and we moved on.