This is the first fully true story I’ve written (minus details needed to keep everyone’s anonymity) to the best that I can remember it. If you enjoyed it, I’d love to know what you liked about it in the comments or privately!
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My wife and I engage in ethical non-monogamy. What this has meant for us and how we’ve done it has changed and evolved over the years. This was one of my first experiences a few years ago.
We had set up separate OkCupid accounts and, as you’d expect, the number of women reaching out to a married man with kids in his 30s was fairly low, even with all the advantages of NYC. I also decided not to use a photo that would reveal who I am, mostly to protect my kids until they were old enough to understand. And of those who did reach out to me, many either hadn’t read the profile initially, or were disappointed to learn that I wasn’t cheating. One day, however, I logged in to a waiting message from a cute mid-30s black woman named Rachel.