I [F] had my first real BDSM experience with a Dom I met on Reddit… (LONG)

This is a long post, more for my own documentation than anything else, but thought I’d share. The start of the sexy stuff is clearly labeled so you can scroll to that if you want.

Earlier this year I [29F] ended a very long term relationship. We’d been together since I was in my very early twenties and while we had a great sex life, over the years I’ve come to discover my own interest in BDSM and submission which was not an itch that was fully scratched with him in spite of our chemistry. I have played a fair bit online but never in real life.

Before now, I’d never had a “slutty phase” and have been really enjoying the freedom and fun that I’ve been able to indulge in since I became single and recently moved cities. While it’s a bit later in life than most to have a hoe phase, it’s the perfect time for me now. I am confident in myself, know what I like and want to explore, and also know my boundaries. Being in a new city has allowed me to be a bit more adventurous than I otherwise would be. I’ve been dating a lot and in some cases have fucked on the first date on a few occasions (even doubled my “body count” within a month of moving to my new city👀it was low! Lol) but I knew that if I could muster up the courage to do it, that I would love to find an experienced Dom to experience a proper BDSM scene once and for all, after fantasizing about it for so long.

One horny day about a month or so ago I was browsing the R4R subreddit for my new city. I was mostly just curious but ended up seeing a well-written, responsible post from a redditor with plenty of experience and toys (with ample post history to prove it) looking for a submissive playmate. I saved the post and followed the account thinking that I might end up sending a message but that I’d probably chicken out from it. I forgot that Reddit notifies users when someone follows them lol. He messaged me and asked if I happened to be a woman in his city. I confirmed and said I liked his post but wasn’t sure if I was ready to meet up with someone from online in this type of context or not. We chatted a bit further and I was excited by the idea. He seemed normal and very responsible, explaining that we could meet somewhere neutral just to chat and see if we felt comfortable together, no chance of playing on the first meeting. He also sent me a long list of questions to get to know me better about my preferences, limits, safe words, birth control, last STI test results, any medical/past trauma info to be aware of, aftercare needs, and more. This all made me feel very comfortable in advance.

We met for our first chat on a Sunday morning in a park and had coffee. I was so nervous on my way there like I couldn’t believe I was actually meeting up with a stranger to talk about how I like to be used like a fuck toy in broad daylight! Most people who would meet me would never ever guess that I’m into rough sex and submission. I have always been perceived as a goody goody, and I have always had highly visible leadership type roles in my career. Very, very few people know about my tastes in the bedroom so I was nervous. It was totally fine though, we got along well and I was comfortable (albeit still a little nervous) very quickly into our chat. We talked for maybe an hour tops, he confirmed all of my answers to the questions, we both talked about some of our preferences and desires, hard limits, and also about our work and life a bit.

We agreed to play after I got my latest STI test results back and he put my mind at ease by confirming that I could give all of his details to my best friend in the city who also always has my location tracking on. He said I should set an alarm to text her and check in later in the night which we did end up doing. He is a professional to whom discretion is also very important. All of these things made me feel comfortable and safe about (eventually) going to a virtual stranger’s home to meet. Our chat in the park was so matter of fact and neutral that I was momentarily surprised and then excited when he said that he was super hard and felt precum leaking when we stood up to part ways.

*********Sexy Stuff Starts Here********

We decided to play on a Friday night. I was still a bit nervous, but way more excited than nervous. I knew our tastes were by and large very compatible and finally I’d be playing out some of my biggest fantasies. He instructed me to wear a dress or skirt with no underwear and that I should be fully waxed or shaven and that he would check at the door. I felt very slutty in my Uber as I made my way to his condo and texted my friend about when to expect another check in from me.I wore a dark green t-shirt dress, black lace push up bra, and no underwear as instructed. For scene setting purposes I have shoulder length dark brown hair, I’m 5’2, 118 lbs, big green eyes, and 32DD breasts. I arrived at his condo (very nice and clean! Phew!) and we said hello and as promised, no sooner than taking my coat off did he check that I followed his instructions. He lifted up the skirt of my dress and I felt his fingers begin to explore my smooth pussy while he groped my ass. He remarked on how tight and already wet I was. I was excited.
We made our way further into the condo and I saw all of his toys, harness, vibrators, bondage instruments, etc. displayed on the island in his kitchen (we’d had previous discussions about hygiene and I was comfortable with his sanitation methods). It really is an impressive collection… especially as someone who’s only ever been tied up with a housecoat tie and owns only two vibrators (which I only purchased this year!).

He got me a glass of wine and caressed my ass while we chit chatted in the kitchen and living room and enjoyed the wine. While I sat on the couch and drank my wine he put restraints on my wrists and ankles. From this point on I might have some things out of order because we did so much and it was so fun for me that I lost a bit of sense of timeline lol. Anyway after almost a full glass of wine he told me to take off my dress and bra and he had me stand against the wall with my hands up while he inspected my pussy and ass. I was already dripping wet at this point. It took very little rubbing of my clit for him to get me to the point of almost orgasm. He told me not to cum as he kept rubbing me and I had a hard time holding back. When he told me to cum I had such a strong orgasm and knew I was in for a fun night.

Then he had me crawl further into the living room and get on all fours on his large ottoman in the living room. It wasn’t long before I was face down ass up and his was fingering me and spanking me with wild abandon. I wasn’t holding back and was definitely moaning loudly enjoying the constant pleasure and pain. Here he also slapped my face quite a bit which I also really enjoyed even though I later needed to “yellow” safe word on the face slapping because it was starting to be too much for me to handle. I think it was here on the ottoman that he first spit on my pussy/ass which I found soooo hot.

After giving me multiple additional orgasms and spanks he told me to bend over on the couch where he fucked me doggy style. His cock felt soooo good sliding in. I was so wet and he used lube. He didn’t hold back and fucked me really hard as I had my face in the couch. He spanked me, grabbed me by the shoulders and hips, and called me all kinds of delicious naughty names. He had been saying that he would take the condom off to cum on my face when he was ready to finish buuuuut I think I must have felt really good because he ended up finishing inside me in the condom ;)

We took a little break and chatted on the couch. Then he told me to crawl into the bedroom where he put a ball gag on me (first time) had me bend over and put my face down in the bed with my hands reaching back through my legs. He affixed a spreader bar (also my first time, of course) to the restraints on my ankles and then clipped the restraints on my wrists to the spreader bar. He made sure I could easily snap my fingers as a safe word (which I could) and we started playing again. In this position he used a powerful wand vibrator on my clit resulting in me enjoying countless orgasms. The ball gag was put to good use because he had me basically screaming. It was so intense I could barely handle it but I definitely didn’t want it to stop either. He also rolled a small metal pinwheel (I’d never heard of one of these before—I was a little nervous because it was spiky) up and down my ass cheek and then later across my nipples. The sensations were amazing, I didn’t know I would or could like something like that so much!

He released me from the spreader bar and took the gag off me and flipped me over and at first we tried traditional nipple clamps with a chain on me, but it was too much for the moment. I’d like to try them again though. Instead we used nipple…. pumps? He screwed them on both of nipples to the point I could handle the pleasure and pain. While they did their work, he used a heavy metal dual ended dildo (I guess that’s what you’d call it). He had me hold it to understand the weight and it was much heavier than I expected. He worked that into my wet pussy and the heaviness paired with him thrusting it in and out of me felt so amazing. I can understand why some of my friends like Ben Wa balls now… I definitely had a few more orgasms during this. As we’d been chatting throughout the night and during breaks we’d discussed a bit about my comfort levels and fantasies re: exhibitionism. For the record I love the idea in theory, I’m nervous about it in practice. Under the right circumstances though, I’d be open to having select people watch a play session like this and other sexual scenarios. So he asked how I’d feel if he called another one of his subs to listen while we played. I was very into the idea so he texted her to coordinate.

Then he took the nipple pumps off and started using a vibrator on each of my nipples at the same time. Holy fucking shit, I orgasmed from nipple stimulation alone. Again, something I’ve never experienced and didn’t know I could do. It was such a unique feeling. It was like, kinda in my clit but kinda not? Much more full body in a really cool way. That was amazing. I was honestly laughing my head off, incredulous at the situation and doubling over in pleasure. It was overwhelming in a good way. I think he was pretty amused by this too. My legs and body were fully shaking by the end of it.

We took a little break again and cuddled a bit on the couch and chatted. By then his other sub had gotten back to him so he had me start sucking his cock while he called her. I loved how his dick felt in my mouth and enjoyed gagging on it while he narrated what I was doing and told her about how noisy I was and how easily I orgasmed. I started gagging a bit on his cock and tears came to my eyes as I kept sucking and taking him as deep as I could and I enjoyed him telling her about that and hearing him moan into the phone. Then he flipped me over on the couch and fucked me HARD doggy style again (my favourite). He called me a good slut and told her how she’d be so jealous about how hard and easily I cum. I moaned extra hard at that… I can’t remember at which point he hung up the call but I enjoyed being able to kind of hear her talking and knowing my moans were being heard.

At one point we moved back into the bedroom where he attached the restraints on my wrists to the straps on his bed and had me bent over the edge of the bed. He used a vibrator on me again, then the pinwheel again, and then fucked me again. Again he fucked me so hard that he came inside me in the condom. One of these times I’ll get his cum on my face but secretly I liked that he didn’t want to stop ;)

After that he untied me and let me rest and stretch a bit. We laid in the bed and he fingered me while pressing down on my low belly which really intensified the feelings. From there he pressed down towards my ass from inside my pussy which was also a sensation I hadn’t really felt before. Very intense but in a good way. While I was laying down he slapped my tits a bit, he used the pinwheel on them a bit more, and then I sucked his cock from a few different positions including laying off the edge of the bed with my head dangling which I love but always find a bit challenging. We fucked again in missionary with my legs on his shoulders and then in spoon position which hit my g-spot so well.

Again a lot of this could be a bit out of order because there’s so much to remember and I was totally in a one track mind of pleasure and submission (I think that’s why I like this so much; it’s ultimately a form of relaxation even though there’s a lot of adrenaline. I can forget about everything else for a time). Throughout the night he called me all of my favourite sexually degrading names like “good slut”, “cum slut”, called my pussy “cunt”, he talked about having others watching me, and seeing how much I cum, talked about having his other girls eat me out and/or use a vibrator on me while getting fucked, and about me eating pussy for the first time. It was all so fucking hot and exciting and pleasurable.

I am so glad I had such a good first experience like this. I felt very safe, comfortable, and cared for the whole time which is the foundation for being able to fully and pleasurably submit. By the time we were done we both fell asleep for a little while cuddling which is my preferred after care. All in all I was there for about six hours and our breaks were short. Needless to say I was fucking exhausted the next day. I have a few naughty bruises that remind me of what we got up to, and I’m excited to play again.

Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/qrv5na/i_f_had_my_first_real_bdsm_experience_with_a_dom