We’ve been together 10+ years and my wife (42) has never been one to really want it on the regular. I’m not sure what happened but over the last couple of years it has gotten much less frequent and worse. What I mean by worse is that the sex is just – well – – – blah. We have no health issues, she has an incredible body and I am ready, willing, capable and have more than enough to satisfy.
So I was complaining to an old girlfriend (48) about the entire thing one night over drinks. We happen to be in the same city for a business trip. I had no intention of hooking up with her or doing anything to jeopardize my marriage. I’m sure you know how the rest of this story goes. One tequila shot led to another and we found ourselves at a hotel checking in for the night. The sex was amazing. I am not sure if it was because I hadn’t really had good sex in years or my ex was trying extra hard to impress. We were not even all the way in the room and she had my cock out of my pants. By the time the door closed my pants were below my waist and she was deep throating me in front of the bathroom. You know how there is the mirror in hotel bathrooms by the door – well there I was staring in the mirror as she took all of me in her mouth.
We made it to the bed eventually and I was going down on her to return the favor – another thing which my wife will no longer let me do to her. After my ex came we fucked and fucked for hours. We even had anal sex which was a first for both of us. I was blown away at her willingness to want anal because when we were together we never even discussed it. My wife has expressed some interest in anal but always changes the subject when I try to initiate anal. At most my wife will allow me to play with her anus with my fingers.
So the next morning comes around and I have to catch a flight home and my ex has to get back to her conference. She sucked my cock one last time for about 10 minutes. She kept bringing me to the edge and stopping which was mind-blowing (pun intended). I asked her why we never fucked like that before and she said “not sure but we will fuck like this from now on for however long you want. I’m not about ruining your marriage or my relationship (she has a boyfriend), so let’s plan on doing this as much as we can”.
So here I am today. In love with my wife, looking forward to fucking my ex but wishing that all of this steaming sex was with my wife. I have always had a high libido and get crazed when I can’t have it regularly. Before you advise me to try and tell my wife how I feel don’t bother. I’ve tried and tried. I told her I wasn’t happy in the bedroom but that seems to fall on deaf ears and she gets defensive.
I really do want all of the passion with my wife. She works a lot but I think she uses that as an excuse. I get the feeling she is not attracted to me and has just gotten too comfortable. It is a waste because my wife is so beautiful inside and out. What’s a guy to do?
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/uilip9/my_wife_42_rarely_wants_sex_so_i_cheated_in_vegas
I have been there and done that and still fucking around. I take care of my wife’s need, when she wants it, then I take care of mine. We are 51.
Is she getting it somewhere else…at work?
I agree with Jubbly669, you may want to see if your wife may be getting it elsewhere. If she’s as hot and physically fit as you say I’m sure she has a libido. You may want to do some cursory investigating, you have already opened pandoras box and don’t cheat again, if your wife isn’t cheating then both of you really need to seek some counseling to either fix it or part ways. Good luck.
Man I feel this. I want to cry but he’s in the room with me. It’s like you know they love you but don’t want to make love to you. And sex feel great, and you wanna feel great with the one you love .
I’m in a similar situation. I’ve been married 20 years and for the last 10 I’ve had a sexual relationship with an ex. She doesn’t live nearby, and we see each other once or twice a year at most. Sometimes we don’t see each other for more than a year. I don’t really know what it is but we recently discussed it and, while my ex would like us to be together some day, she understands I don’t want to leave my marriage. She also doesn’t actually want to bring a new man into her life, either. We both have kids and want to spend time with them, and we aren’t interested in changing things. So we’re just doing this sexual thing once in a while. When the kids leave things will get interesting. I will have to make a choice I suppose. That’s still a few years away.
Be careful be careful be careful…..and enjoy, but be careful 😊
Work on yourself instead of cheating ?