Teaching my partner to orgasm from verbal command [MF]

I know this sounds ridiculous, but it is 100% real. Conditioned response is an amazing thing.

I have been very interested in the topic of orgasm control and verbal triggers for many years, but never had the right partner to pursue it with. That changed when I met my current long-term partner about 6 years ago. She seemed like a great candidate for this kind of training, as from day one, she was extremely multi-orgasmic, and seemed to respond to my every physical trigger and attempt. Right away, I could push all of her buttons, at will, and make her cum as often and as much as I wanted. We also have a very solid Ds relationship, with her being extremely submissive to me, sexually.

The idea was to train her to orgasm from a verbal command alone, with no physical stimulation required, and ultimately, no warning or prior arousal required. This is based on conditioned response (think Pavlov’s dogs), not hypnosis. When she and I originally discussed this training, we didn’t really know what to expect. We figured, best case, it would take several months to get good at it, and weren’t entirely convinced that it was really possible.

About the training…

To begin with, she was no longer permitted to orgasm without my permission, which included when we were not together. Seemed appropriate that I really needed to take control of her orgasms entirely to make this work. At the same time, I encouraged her to practice edging when I wasn’t around, but she was not permitted to cum. This was just to increase and maintain her general level of sexual tension. Was very difficult for her at first, but she took to it very well, and started to enjoy it.

Initially, training her to orgasm on my verbal command, I would have her extremely worked up, but not allowed to cum. I would then tell her she could cum when I counted to 3. This way, she was waiting for my verbal cue, but was absolutely guaranteed to not fail. Soon, I went from doing it when she was building up but not already in the state of begging for release. Before long, In the middle of a string of orgasms I would just drop the countdown and tell her to “cum now” or “cum again” and it would work. I started trying the countdown and such with less buildup or direct stim beforehand. Soon, I dropped the countdown and simply started telling her “cum now” or “cum again” or simply “cum” while she got stim. When coupled with stim or intercourse, I would often tell her to “keep cumming until I tell you to stop” with some pretty tremendous results.

Not sure that I can even remember the first time that I gave her the command to cum with no stim, but I do not remember a single instance of her failing to cum on my verbal command. Eventually, it got to a point that any time, with no buildup or stim, I simply gave the command to cum, and it happened. If she’s not expecting it or not that pent-up it takes a few seconds of buildup before the wave overtakes her, but it happens without fail.

It’s hard to describe the effect that this has had on our sexual relationship. Whereas before, I could bring her wave after wave of orgasms with some physical work, suddenly, when coupled with stimulation or especially intercourse, it’s so far beyond, that words do it no justice. I can bring her to levels of orgasm that she’s never experienced before, and keep her there for as long as I think she can handle, continually pushing her to higher and higher levels (these strings of orgasms often last 10 minutes and more). Seems like there is a carryover effect, as well. Every time I get her to a new level of intensity, it seems to become a sort of floor where we know we can get to in subsequent play, and build up from there.

She used to masturbate every day (sometimes multiple times). Now she says that she no longer has any desire to cum without me and my command. Her friends (the few she trusts enough to share this with) think she’s nuts when she says this, but I believe her.

The craziest part of it, is not her ability to have long strings of orgasms with no stim, or her ability to orgasm now from receiving a facial or any other trigger I feel like giving her in the moment.

The craziest part is that to get to this point took only a few weeks of infrequent sessions – not the months we were expecting – and we got further along in that time than either of us ever thought possible. I don’t know if it is because of some skill of hers or mine, or the trust and connection we have, or just dumb luck, but it’s been one hell of an interesting and fun ride.

We can be anywhere, doing anything, with sex nowhere connected to the activity, and with a single word, I can make her completely lose control in the moment.

She was already a pretty tremendous submissive pleaser, with an oral fixation and skills. Now, though, she will have dozens of orgasms while on her knees worshipping my cock.

Also, my favorite part… Using this training, we created a trigger, so that her feeling me cumming ALWAYS causes her to orgasm. When I begin to cum in her mouth, she loses control in her own orgasm, which makes for an insanely intense mutual experience. If she pulls me out and strokes my cum onto her face, the moment the first shot of cum hits her face, she starts into an orgasm. It’s difficult to express how hot it is to watch someone reach orgasm from the act of jerking your cum onto their face.

I am pretty obsessed with blow jobs, but because of this training she gets off on sucking my cock more than I do, and it’s rare that a day goes by without her slurping a nice load out of me. The whole orgasm on command thing started as a fun fantasy. I still can’t believe it worked. This began, shortly after we got together 6 years ago, and it’s only gotten better with time.

I live a charmed life, and she’d tell you that she does, too.

Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/ablslo/teaching_my_partner_to_orgasm_from_verbal_command