When I first started coming to this subreddit a couple years ago, it was a safe space for people to post their erotic adventures, morality be damned. If there was something wrong, criticism was given respectfully or downvoted to hell.
Now some of the top rated comments are ones like "I hope your husband/wife leaves you and takes everything" or "you don't deserve your husband/wife". These are usually upvoted when a female poster is the perpetrator of infidelity, men just get less attention overall.
What the fuck happened? When did the morality police take over and why cant you just enjoy the stories for what they are? I hope this sub returns to what it was, because shaming people for sharing their sexuality is not helping new content. This isn't /r/relationships
Source: reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/3kb5td/meta_morality_policr
I guess people feel good about their sad lives by judging others.
Even Red Pillers need to get off, it just turns out that they’re just as obnoxious when they do it. It’s really some kind of logical leap to decide that you’re okay fapping to some story and then go and get on your high horse about people you’ve never met before. Do these people also watch porn and then write letters telling them how they’re dirty people who should be ashamed, and are probably going to hell?
Agreed. The only story I’ve had an issue with was the one where the guy raped his drunk friend. If the story is hot, cheating or not, who cares? That’s not the point of this sub, it’s to share hot stories not condemn cheaters or give relationship advice.
Honestly, I never make the comments because I don’t care enough. I don’t agree with cheating and infidelity, and I don’t care for cuckold either. I only down vow the posts that don’t mention cuckold or cheating in the title. I hate to start reading a story only to see cheating or cuckold without warning. That shit bothers me, and they could at least warn me. I don’t comment though, I just back out of the story and down vote. Don’t try to argue down voting because that is the point of the system. You up vote what you like and down vote what you don’t; deal with it.
Yeah, I hate it when I start reading something and then it turns out to be someone parading their dubious morality and stupidity without giving me any warning. Fuck, that bothers me. These self-righteous twits should at least warn us when posting to the innocent morally upstanding porn communities they frequent with dick in hand.
I agree. It’s all about the fapping entertainment. There’s cheating stories where I’d hate to be the guy being cheated on, but it happens and it’s usually a really good story.
pretty sure just as people are free to post what they want we are free to comment what we want
Sorry but those stories are just SO bad, what’s wrong with playing along with the suspension of disbelief that the authors so desperately wanted? If they feel like they needed to introduce affairs in their fiction, then why not reinforce how naughty and dangerously exciting said fiction would be?
There aren’t nearly enough people calling OP an asshole here.
Cheating is a complex issue that is horribly dealt with by our sexually conservative societies. The reality is that a **majority** of marriages end, and a **majority** of marriages have infidelity. People are pushed into a huge decision that places a lifetime lock on their genitals. It’s unrealistic. You don’t know the circumstances. It is incredibly common for men to relax in relationships, stop taking care of their bodies, and completely fail to provide for the sexual needs of their partner. After years of a sexless or nearly sexless marriage, a partner is no longer a partner. They have no claim to the sexuality of their cohabitant, and when that person is only able to stay in a relationship for children or for platonic love by cheating… more power to them for sticking it out. There are absolutely some terrible people who cheat, but I don’t think it’s the duty of internet warriors with barely any information to work that out.
Why do you think these comments are some of the top comments, then? There must be some reason why they have not been down voted to hell.
Red Pillers?
/r/theredpill enter at your own risk
That was my reason for posing the meta question. Not long ago, the opposite was true here. Now judgemental fuckwits are running amok and all I can think is how much the quality of content has been dropping since regular female posters got shamed out or stalked by the fidelity police.
I’m not down with cheating, I’ve never done it and I’ve never had a relationship where there wasn’t solid communication about fantasies and extracommittal urges. But what’s done is done, and this should be a safe place to share the stories of what’s already transpired. Nobody is going out to cheat on their spouse just so they can post on /r/gonewildstories. So judgemental commentary accomplishes nothing but making OP feel worse than they already did, if they weren’t over it already. Keep in mind; there are several regular, quality posters- particularly female, that have been stalked or shamed out of the community. Not long ago there were regular amazing series being dropped in this sub but quality content is fewer and further between.
It’s very possible that the posters of cheating stories like being called cheaters. Some people get a thrill from that, be it fantasy or otherwise.
Agreed. Consent issues ruin the story and are gross and I don’t like even reading shit that normalizes that kinda shit. But fidelity stuff that’s between the poster and their partner? For one, just because it might have been a mistake doesn’t mean it might not make a hot story. Beyond that – you don’t like the story, don’t upvote it.
Disagree- stories where consent is a bit murky- like that recent story about the guy who lost his virginity through craigslist to a couple of older women- can be super hot. But yeah, solve it with votes either way.
> Do these people also watch porn and then write letters telling them how they’re dirty people who should be ashamed, and are probably going to hell? Some people do that, yeah, it’s twisted
They often are downvoted, eventually.
Once upon a time people posted stories about taboos that turned people on… Then some assholes slated them… Now they don’t post those awesome stories anymore… Honestly, if people don’t like dirty stories then they should probably stop reading them. Simples… Please stop abusing the authors.
Holy crap, that was eye opening, disturbing, and a few other things I’ve still not processed yet.
Wow. Sometime I forget that other dudes actually buy into that bullshit. Is this real or a troll?? https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3k46y9/girl_on_rokcupid_complains_about_getting_46/cuum87c
I wish it was just a troll.
I’m curious as to what the reaction would have been to [this story](https://www.reddit.com/r/gonewildstories/comments/3k8xdv/i_had_my_first_orgy_and_my_husband_doesnt_know/) if the story was told by the married man.
then they should just get divorced or break up that simple no excuse
> dudes There’s a red pill for women subreddit too, but I don’t remember the exact name offhand.
Maybe it’s possible to love each other and be good life partners without being good sex partners. Maybe people have kids and get along and don’t want to make life hard for the kids. Bundling sex in with marriage and insisting on monogamy is absurd.
Then marry someone who wants a open relationship cheating instead of marry someone who wants monogamy cheating has no excuse
It’s stupid to think that people have figured themselves out by their early 20s, and it’s stupid to think that people’s desires don’t change. http://www.wheelercentre.com/notes/f62f0865e03a
Marriage rarely works when you are in your early twenties that is why most people wait till 26 or 30s also it is like someone changes their mind on kids it is a conflict of interest and a deal breaker if someone say i want to have sex with other people and their SO does not then simply get divorced or break up and do not hurt the other person again cheating has no excuse
This clearly says affair on the top. If people don’t want to read about cheating and stuff then don’t click. Also its irrelevant who wrote it IMO because at this point it’s just a story designed to entertain regardless of if it really happened.
Seriously, there was one poster who had stories about cheating on her BF best story I read on here and the comments were filled with judgy whining shit in both their posts. That poster hasn’t been back since. It is a pattern in every sub now before the sex positive ones especially the ones with the purpose to enjoy the eroticism were open to it but now all of them are always filled with morally right commenters shaming the poster if it doesn’t fit their moral judgements on a sex subreddit.
There seems to be a huge uptick in the proportion of stories involving infidelity. It used to be the rare story and now 3/4 on here are "I fucked 5 dudes while my sucker husband was at work lol"
Being anti-cheating makes you a red pillar now?
You got any sources on that majority of marriages having infidelity thing? This reads like a whole bunch of self justification.
That has been the tone in literally zero of the stories I’ve read on here. Stop projecting malice and intent on others and perhaps you’ll enjoy life more.
Who the heck is downvoting this comment? Such is life.
Guess people are more comfortable using the "Madonna or whore" mentality with women…but clearly do not apply the same standard to guys.