My wife used to be vanilla in bed. She never watched porn, didn’t read smut. Short, unrealistic sex scenes from the PG13 comedies of the 2000s (think Veronica Corningstone and Ron Burgundy) was all she knew.
For me, I’ve always wanted to try most everything; and I’ve learned over the years that if I do the research and present the possibilities then she will likely warm up to the idea (even if it takes some time). This method has led to us enjoying sexual activities many wouldn’t dream of. Anal, rough spanking, rough nipple play, golden showers, sex in a moving car, public toy play, threesomes etc are never things we would have tried otherwise and now we try to incorporate most of these into our normal sex lives.
For years I joked that she should call me daddy and for years she was disgusted by the idea. To be honest, I didn’t think it would do much for me, but her response was always funny. Over the past year, however, her responses started to become less disgusted. She reads smut now and there’s been quite a few “Daddy” trends on TikTok so I’d assume they played a role.