I found Erin on AFF. We were both in our early twenties. Before I decided to message her I perused her profile. Her pictures were cute, cute enough to make you wonder if there’s a real person behind that account. Her blog of experiences in the lifestyle caught my eye. Topics range from ‘what’s it like to be the only unicorn in existence’ and ‘for real single men, get your shit together’.
We started chatting and eventually graduated to texting and then a voice call. I wish I still had the pictures she sent me from our initial chat. In them, she was wearing a black corset and the most adorable velvet choker. She had a little thing for soft BDSM; something I hadn’t explored in the slightest, at the time.
That night we talked on the phone got to know each other a bit. I asked her what she wanted and what she was doing on AFF. Her response aligned with my lifestyle. She pretty much reiterated my response to the same question when she asked over instant messenger: no strings. Purely sexual relationship if we click and like playing together. I don’t think I consciously caught it at the time but in hindsight I have always believed that she wasn’t completely honest with herself or me. – more on that later…