I (32M) have had a fairly healthy sexual life, long relationships, multiple sex partners. I’d say the frequency could be on the higher side of the median. I have fairly been of monogamous disposition, you know the whole drill of chasing and pining for someone, being immersed into her universe and making her my universe. Sex, torrid or lukewarm, has been primarily a part of a relationship, scarcely outside of it.
Until I met my best friend, whose acquaintance I first had in a pub 5 years ago. I met her when I was single, and she was in the midst of a long, torturous relationship with a narcissistic guy who perennially kept her on the tenterhooks. She has always had a sexually open disposition (a strong believer of ‘free love’), but at the time I met her, she was burning for someone. She’d just broken up, during which she was actively having ONS with multiple guys. Mostly as a way to get back at her ex. The girl in question has a goddess-like body, a very lady-like demeanour, and a very COLD vibe. Think a body like Scarlett Johansson/Valentina Nappi, and an attitude like Claire Underwood from House of Cards.