For some backstory: me and a friend of mine met in college when I was 19 and we’ve been close ever since. About two or three months after we met she invited me to her apartment and we ended up making out and eventually having sex three times before the night was over. Her roommate probably wasn’t pleased lol.
Anyway, the next time I was over at hers she confided in me that she’d never had an orgasm. She said that sex and masturbation always felt amazing to her, but she’d never experienced the explosive “wow” feeling, that bursting release of pleasure that everyone talked about. In fact, she’d only ever felt a “buildup,” (what she called the mounting sensation she felt was rushing towards…something) once with an one night stand and once when she was fingering herself. She didn’t want us to focus on it when we had sex, but wanted to be honest. So for years we’ve had a good friendship, great sex, and a fun time learning each other’s likes, dislikes, kinks, and everything else. But as much as we’ve grown and experimented, both with each other and with other people, she still never had an orgasm.