A couple of y’all asked me about this because I’ve mentioned I’ve been into CNC. I will deliver because I’ve had some great consensual non-consensual sex, but I am not going to do it without a few healthy disclaimers and advice.
First off, do not jump into this. CNC takes more than your average safe words and signals. It requires more than just trusting your partner. It can bring up shit on both sides. The first time my partner and I really got into it, it actually deeply affected him more than me. Make an aftercare plan.
So I dated a guy for a while and then we moved to different places. We’d regularly Skype or sext for years after and sometimes visit each other. Bro, we had some weird ass sex that got rough. I dare say we were pretty close to CNC during some of our sessions. We got even fucking weirder when we weren’t in person.
*Which is natural. It’s much easier to write kinky things out. Some of it got so weird though I really can’t even write it on here. I tried and I just could not put it in a context that doesn’t make us sound like psychopaths.*