I met my Italian born girlfriend, u/LunaPenelope, of 7 months on a dating app called “Hinge”. We both were recently divorced, but ready for something serious again. She was very open with her past and I quickly learned she lost her virginity to her ex-husband 2 months before turning 25. The relationship was strictly monogamous and very vanilla. After her divorce she only had sex with 3 other guys, and I was her 5th sexual partner. Luna’s herself wasn’t *fully* vanilla at heart. She admitted to watching lesbian porn as her go-to and was bi-curious. She also thoroughly enjoyed light flirting and receiving innocent attention from males regardless of being in a monogamous relationship.
I was very open to Luna about my past relationship and experience in the swinger lifestyle (LS) with my ex. *Side note: those of us in the swinger community call it “The Lifestyle” or “LS” for short.* I made sure to stress the fact that the lifestyle was my past and I had no desire to return to it. I said this because my focus was genuinely finding a soulmate that I could build trust with and eventually start a family. The only expectation I had of her was to meet my LS friends with no judgement and attend a LS house party with an open-mind.