I am not the sort of person to randomly meet people I’ve chatted with online. I’ve never gone to any of the Meetup gatherings I’ve bookmarked online and the few dates I had through sites or dating apps were either unremarkable or disastrous. For most of my adult life I had been in a couple of long term relationships that ended for the reasons relationships end, and I was in the worst sexual drought of my life. Years of neglect and denial. I was miserable. Keep reading. I promise it gets better. ;)
I moved to a small city in a new part of the country to take my first academic job. It’s been nice, but I work so much I rarely have the opportunity to meet new people and so my sex life was still non-existent. I bought a Fleshlight online on a whim. It felt surprisingly good, but mostly just made me long for the real thing again.