Sometimes marriages get in a rut. You’re just out of sync. Your other life obligations get in the way of remembering to be in love with the person.
But sometimes ruts are even more. Sometimes it feels like you’ve been in a rut so long you don’t remember what life was like outside of it. And then you suddenly realize how far apart you are. And then you start talking about being tired with each other and then there you are, staring down the barrel of “do we really want to keep doing this”.
That was us. You just get so bogged down in other life adventures that you just see the marriage as nothing more than just a familiarity with someone that you’re used to. And damn that shit is scary.
I’m a very physical lover. I require physical affection, both from my significant other, but more importantly, the ability to GIVE affection back. My wife on the other hand is a very emotional lover. She gives affection willingly, but she needs to feel her emotional needs are being met and appreciates the partnership of marriage. It’s a dynamic that works really well when you’re in sync but can be catastrophic when you aren’t. And we weren’t in sync anymore.