**Background**
Ending a decade long vanilla lesbian relationship and marriage to a woman and thinking about men again was surprisingly easy. Perhaps it was the total lack of any kind of kink fulfilment in my previous relationship, perhaps it was the 2+ years of a completely dead bedroom, perhaps it was the unhealthy lack of communication or manipulation she made into my daily reality? Whatever the cause it was liberating and slightly dizzying to think that I was able to be myself again after such a long time.
My first post on the DDlg personals subreddit was a total shock to me, I didn’t really know how badly I had been craving submission again or even think about what response I wanted, just knew I was desperate to re-indulge my kinky side after so long on the “straight” and narrow. A few conversations with nice guys later and I was certain that I was back where I belonged. Even just discussing my kinks with like-minded people and the briefest hint of sexual connection was enough to light a fire under my ass to find what I had been yearning for for so long.