tl;dr I met a girl a decade ago and fell hard. The timing was never right, we both got married and now we have reconnected. This is quite long and I wrote it as much for me and [/u/MaeBaeBae](https://www.reddit.com/u/MaeBaeBae) as for a public audience. Hopefully she will chime in with her thoughts and to answer questions as well.
Mae (f) and I (m) are in our 30’s. From the outside looking in, we both have pretty great lives. We’re both married with kids and our spouses are good people. We live in comfortable homes and have good jobs. Up until 3 weeks ago, neither of us had any interest in blowing that up. I’ll get back to that, but really our story started more than ten years ago.
I was a sophomore at a university abroad. An old friend of mine, James, was there on vacation and had invited me along to be a tourist with him for the day. We made plans to go diving with sharks. I had been talking to a girl at the university, Natalia, about diving together so I brought her along, too. Natalia and I had fooled around a little bit recently but it wasn’t anything serious. Outside of studying together or making out in one of our apartments, we had spent very little time together. I was looking forward to spending the day with her to see if she was someone I would be interested in.