Administrative Assistance [MF]

I have a complicated (but thoroughly enjoyable) relationship at home. We mainly have (still, after all of these years) a lot of sex, but I travel a week or two per quarter for work, as I have for the past 4 years, and we enjoy having sex with other people during my times away. We don’t play together, and we’re both bisexual, and like many others here have already written, we get hot when we hear stories from our partner — and that greatly enhances our already enjoyable sex life. We only play when I travel for work (my partner is retired now), and we have two impossible rules. First, neither of us will have drunken sex with other people. Second, we both set something up, but individually, before anybody gets play time. In other words, if she has setup a play date, but I haven’t, then her play date is off, and vice versa. This means that we’ve cancelled many, many times. Sorry, but we are those people at times.

Toxic relationship, but with odd/awesome sex [MF]

This relationship took place many years ago — and lasted for approximately two pretty unhealthy years — and included getting married, then divorcing. But this isn’t a therapist’s chair, and plus all of this took place decades ago, so I’ll avoid talking about the many bad parts of the relationship, and instead focus on the eye openers I’d experienced, at that point in time, sexually. Plus, if you read my submitted history, you will find that I live a pretty unique life, but, as always, I’d appreciate it if you don’t judge.

I am the male part of that relationship. I was 25 at the time, and pretty naive when it came to relationships, and she was 26, and definitely not naive when it came to relationships. As I got to know her better, she had divulged that she had been dating people since she was… 12. In addition, she claimed to have suffered a sexual assault at some point along the way, and while our sex life and relationship had always been “a bit off”, to put it mildly, the vast majority of our best sexual adventures took place after I’d been aggressive with her, or after she’d been aggressive with me. This is not to make light of sexual assault; it’s just an observation on my part, given my first-hand knowledge of what took place between us and all.