I had been single for a few months, though I did have the occasional hook up, and I was sleeping with a married polyamorous woman who was in an open relationship occasionally. None of my friends knew that though, I was keeping that low profile given the circumstances. Well, my being unattached — when that was not a common thing for me — prompted one of my friends to try to set me up. I didn’t realize that was what was happening at the time, but it was very thoughtful, if not entirely the wrong person for me.
Here is the setup. One my friends from Brazil, Juliana, sent me a message one night asking me to meet her at a bar near her apartment. This wasn’t an entirely abnormal request and I had no real plans so I told her I’d be there in a little while. I assumed she was there with her husband and maybe a few other mutual friends — she and I never hung out 1:1 — so I took my time getting ready before meeting her at the bar. It turns out it was just her and her friend who I will call Fernanda who I hadn’t met before.