I’m 41, married, and currently in a dead bedroom situation. After trying to address this in my relationship, I made the decision to try to meet my needs outside of it. I posted to my local r4r here in VA to see if any local women were in the same situation. Given it’s not a huge metropolitan area like DC or Charlotte, I wasn’t confident I’d get a response. But the local Reddit community is pretty active so I hoped for the best and expected nothing.
I eventually received a promising response from a woman a few years younger than me in the same situation – in a loving relationship but sexually unfulfilled despite her best efforts. The chats progressed and trust developed to where we shared pics. In doing so I realized I had seen Julie before. I recognized her as a fellow member at the health club we belong to. I had seen her at the pool with her family, but we had not met, apparently having no friends in common which is unusual at our gym because everyone is so friendly you end up meeting alot of people through group exercise or other social events. But not knowing each other previously helped in our situation for obvious reasons.