Several years ago, when I first started exploring ethical non-monogamy, I downloaded OKCupid to check out the dating scene (something I’d never before had the chance to explore). I remember seeing this absolutely stunning woman on the app – gorgeous smile, nose ring, tattoos – and she seemed to be charmingly goofy on top of that, so I eagerly swiped right and just agonized over writing the perfect intro message. I can’t remember what I wrote, but I’m sure it was a little cringy. Anyway, she didn’t swipe back, I went on with my life, met new people, fell in love, made mistakes, learned a lot about myself and completely forgot about her.
Until a few months ago. Through mutual friends, we met at a small party. I immediately recognized her, but it took me a minute to realize from where. We started talking, we hit it off, and I texted her later asking if she’d be down to get coffee sometime. And she said yes!! I couldn’t believe it. I didn’t tell her that I recognized her from OKC years ago…