Married 28 years this year, with both children grown and out of college, so this isn’t exactly a wild and impetuous encounter with the unknown, but I’m sure I’m not the only middle-aged person here (we’re early fifties). We are also both pretty nice looking and take good care of ourselves (if that helps), and honestly, sex doesn’t get any better than the sex I’ve had with my wife over the years.
But it started going away. The combination of menopause a few years ago and a challenging new job just put her mind in a different place. She couldn’t let go anymore and just get lost in pleasure, and sex. I was literally running out of ways to get her mind onto it, and felt increasingly “alone” in that my mind has stayed very much on these things. All this time and privacy again and no need even for birth control! Only … she had just gone sort of sexually dormant.
She has always liked reading erotica, but everything I found for her online was cliched and inauthentic. Videos? Forget it. Then, a few weeks ago, I ran across this subreddit and its often very authentic and genuine posts.