Characters having traits that portray real life problems – therapeutic or harmful?

ACTUAL QUESTION – NOT A STORY!

I realized anytime I tried writing erotica, the main character is pretty rejective. Throughout my life I’ve always had issues with rejection. Mainly with having crushes for the wrong people – who made fun of me. At this point I fear my friends could turn away from me any moment. It’s just something that’s always there. Not a major issue, but present.

Now I just thought of writing another erotica, and the first scenario is the female character asking the male character on a date and getting rejected, but the guy making a compromise and they start fwb which is kind of abusive. All my erotica looks like it.

But it also shows loss of control. And I heard that people who have a need to be in control of everything, will have a great relief if they give up their control in bed.

So what do you guys think? Is writing this kind of erotica something that can be therapeutic, or should I rather stop since it’s harmful?