I’ll try to keep this relatively short even though I could write an entire book about it. Maybe I will someday.
If you look at my post history you’ll get some of the backstory. I first brought up the idea to my wife about 4 years ago. She struggled with it at first for myriad reasons. Do you want to sleep with other women? Do you not love me? Are you gay? All valid responses honestly.
But we talked about it for years and once she realized the true nature of my desire—maximizing her pleasure—she opened up and admitted it’s been a huge fantasy of hers for as long as she can remember.
We role played the scenario, simulated with toys, and everything in between. We already had a fantastic sex life (we fuck pretty much every day) and a beautiful marriage with incredible communication. It started feeling like something we seriously wanted to pursue.
We were more comfortable with the thought of bringing in a friend at the beginning. I had her flirt with a buddy at a party one night and we both got off on it but it didn’t go any further than that.