My husband and I have been in the swinging lifestyle for several years. It’s not a huge part of our lives or anything like that — just something we do once every few months, when the right friends come around or there’s a cool party we can make.
But part of that is a rule that I’m allowed to play with other women without him, as long as he knows in advance. That’s important for this story, and my new friend, Janice. (Name changed)
So our sons are on the same hockey team and we started chatting at the rink. We just started vibing, almost immediately. Turned out she’s divorced and so we talked about her dating life and all other kinds of exceedingly normal things. We became friends, not just people who are stuck together for a couple hours a week. The conversations were also kinda flirty? I even told her that we were in the lifestyle, and answered a few questions she had about it.