So now that I am out of the military I’ll share a story that happened a year or so back.
Quick set up : I have considered myself hetero flexible for a while now. Not attracted to men, but not afraid to have sexual interactions with men either. My wife has always thought this was super hot (same way guys find girl girl interactions hot) so she has always encouraged me to take that leap if I ever wanted to.
While I was deployed to the middle east I had a week where I was stuck on a fairly large base in the middle east (not Afghanistan or Iraq, no risk of danger what so ever) and I was very horny. The kind of horny that doesn’t go away after jerking off.
As I was coming back from the base exchange I saw a few Grindr stickers on some of the light posts so I became curious. I had downloaded the app forever ago just incase I ever decided to go for it. When I got back to where I was staying, I got on Grindr and started browsing and there were plenty of options (I was kind of surprised at how many guys were on there). After a getting a few messages and chit chatting I decided to go for it and messaged my wife to give her the heads up. Its one thing to talk about in the bed room, but a whole other thing to actually go through with.