I don’t know how long this will be but I know it will be poorly written. Lol bear with me.
I’d like to think my stance on virginity is realistic and easy to understand. For one、 I don’t believe it’s a tangible thing. The way most people see it、it’s a concept. A tool for control. Blah blah blah.
I believe virginity is simply lacking any experience in a specific thing. In this case sex. That lack of experience doesn’t affect your character or make you more or less holy than anyone else. Just means you haven’t had sex yet. It’s not some super spiritual life changing thing. Weighed against all of the (better) sex you will have it’s almost meaningless to obsess over it. You’ll rarely think about it. (Unless you’re writing about it like I did in one of my other stories.)
But that doesn’t mean your first experience should be rushed or treated in a completely casual/careless manner unless that’s what you want. A good first experience can lead you to believe sex is a good thing so long as consent and comfort exist.