My wife [38] has always been a generous lover, even as I [40] hoped she’d become more comfortable experimenting or even just initiating with me. (A delightful exception is when she introduced me to rimming – story in my profile.)
Recently for a variety of reasons she’s lost a bit of interest in our sex life, among other things and I’ve been a bit resentful of having to put in all the extra effort to make up for it. A silver lining has been that she’s acquiesced to some of my more dominant tendencies, even if she’s not really into submitting. It’s kinda like, she’s indifferent to whether or not we do a particular thing at a particular time if I ask but she doesn’t want to stop having any sex altogether.
So sometimes I just masturbate in the shower and tell her to kneel down because I need her mouth to cum into. Or, more recently, I’ll give her a massage while fingering her pussy and arse. Then when she’s sufficiently prepped and relaxed, I’ll put her buttplug in and fuck her just for my release instead of her returning the massage.