I’m not usually usually sure if people want to read this but I’m in awe at the writing by some people in this sub so I wanted to contribute.
For those that have followed my posts they know that my husband and I are active swingers.
What makes the dynamic successful is communication and trust. We also have a set routine that works for us. We typically meet a couple for a drink (or a coffee depending on the time) and get to know each other a little bit on a personal level first. It helps build trust and we’ve found makes the experiences better.
Having three kids and limited success made us take a little bit of a break, but one night my husband was chatting with a couple that seemed normal. They were a little younger than us but still experienced in the lifestyle. Their profile was nice and they seemed cute. Their pictures seemed real so we figured we would get a babysitter and try.
The moment we walked into the local wine bar we felt an instant connection. We recognized them immediately and I grabbed my husband’s hand and whispered to him “wait they actually look like their pictures.”