We’ve been together for 6 years, married for 2 years and dated for 4 (you did the math obvi). We met on a blind date and I honestly didn’t think he’d go for me at first – I’m a bit on the plain side and he’s really handsome and outgoing. The first date went just okay, and I actually deleted his number because I was like, “Well, that was a waste because he’ll never ask me for a second date!” but then a week later, he asked to go out again and the rest is history.
The sex was (and is, when it happens) great. He just seemed totally unlike most of the other guys I had been with – he’s definitely assertive in bed, knows exactly what he wants but also cares about my pleasure, is well-endowed and extremely passionate (and my god, best kisser ever). While most of my friends are complaining about their husbands’ lack of libido or how much of a dad bod they’re cultivating, I kinda just shrug because my husband stays fit and doesn’t lack in horniness for sure. Over the years, though, I’ve just kinda not been into sex as much, and also gained a few pounds, such that there’s a noticeable difference in terms of our sex drives. He’s definitely become more familiar with his hand, which I simultaneously feel guilty about but also feel is just part of growing older (not to give too much detail, but we’re in our early 30s).