I’m 21, and I turned 21 this past June. And my friends planned to take me out so I could get wasted for the first time. I didn’t want to drink. I have watched so many people in my family become alcoholics, and while I understand that you can drink in moderation and not succumb to alcoholism, I swore when I was a kid I’d never drink, and I planned to keep that promise.
So I told my friends I wanted something else for my birthday. I wanted to have sex with more than one guy at a time. They got really excited and started calling up guys they had hooked up with, and talked to a few of our male friends.
I was nervous because my options were guys I knew who if it got awkward afterwards I’d still have to see, or guys I didn’t know. But I decided maybe guys I didn’t know very well might be the way to go, that way if I hated the experience it’d be easy to avoid them. I know, sounds bad right? But it was what I felt was best, and still do.