So I (39 yo dad/bear in Kansas) started chatting with a 21 yo straight virgin guy after he had posted several times online and was getting frustrated sexually. He had kind of a twink/lean body, a little petite because of his age, but was not fem. He was clearly masculine and had hair starting to fill in the right places and a slight bit of young stubble. I think part of his trouble was he was South Asian heritage and we live in a conservative white part of the US.
Anyway, I pitched something to him after a little chatting: I asked him if he would be turned on at the thought of touching a man’s cock. He told me he considered himself straight, but was curious. He said he didn’t want to taste it or kiss me, and I of course told him I understood.
I’m a middle aged dad with a bearish body, extra pounds, and plenty hairy. So I warned him it would be different than a male model or other boys he had seen in the locker room. If he wasn’t prepared for that, it could be a turn off or he might think it gross. But I also told him if he leaned into it, it could actually be really arousing for him to be doing something nasty and taboo with a “daddy.” Even though he was a virgin and straight, I think he understood this and was becoming more eager to try it.