My wife and I have been married for less than a year. We’re both a bit shy and squeamish about trying things during sex, and even using any remotely vulgar language to describe it is awkward for us.
So the other day, I stumbled upon a recommendation for an app on /r/christianmarriage that gives ideas for things to try, helps you find mutual interests, have discussions, etc..
We tried out some of the discussion questions, as well as exploring the app’s other options, including an area where you can write in your own sex language for how you refer to different acts and body parts. Half-jokingly, we put in the super tame words we use.
**A few days later…**
We were going to have “sexy times” and I remembered the app, so we tried out the “game” mode where it alternates suggesting things for each person to do until eventually you’re doing “it”. I assigned her the nickname I call her irl, “M’Raisin”, and we got started.
It was fun! We discovered some new ideas and turn-ons!
But then, one prompt really took it up a notch. And, at the same time, reminded us that the game inserted our custom sex language into its prompts.