So, I (Julie) guess I sort of need to unpack what’s going on in my title bit by bit haha… but thank you Reddit, for giving me the space to confess this.
My boyfriend (Jay) has been in and out of AA for a while now, mostly because, duh, he has an alcohol abuse problem. It’s not that he gets drunk or violent or anything like that – actually, he stays the same sweet doofus I love him for – but it’s that 1) he makes stupid decisions, 2) he mostly just drinks at home too much and doesn’t go out when he’s in one of his spells, and 3) we just don’t have any intimacy. For 1), case in point, he got a DUI after he left a party we were at, after I yelled at him for 15 minutes to take a fucking Uber. For 2), I’m a social gal and love going out with my friends, so I fucking hate him just sitting around the house drinking beer after beer. And 3) he lacks any sex drive when he drinks and basically can’t get it up.