Got a lot of messages about this but the original got deleted because our account was too new. So here it is for those who asked.
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You read the title correctly. The backstory is this; My wife and I are in our late twenties. We have been married for 4 years now. We both were early bloomers and started masturbating at young ages (probably between 7-10) and started watching porn early (between 10-13). Needless to say, porn shaped who we are sexually. We met young, she was 14 I was 12 but I was “dating” her neighbor, as much as you can date at 12. Besides that I was far from her type at that time. So fast forward 10 years, we meet again on a barstool in a dive bar in our home town. Sparks fly and it’s history from there. Only issue is, between teen years and adults we had a series of tumultuous relationships that caused horrible insecurities and self doubt in both of us. Trust was lacking, self confidence at a bare minimum, we push forward. Enter porn, stage left. Neither of us have any confidence or self worth left to deal with each other masturbating to someone else. We feel abandoned and unwanted and form a shame circle around porn. Not good! As a guy I have a weird libido. It’s sort of a use it or lose it type thing for me. Well, we have young kids so sex isn’t always an option. And I’m not watching porn, so my libido is suffering. All the while my wife has the libido of a 13 year old boy. But shes repressing it as well and getting angrier by the day. You guessed it, the pressure cooker just kept boiling till it exploded. Our marriage has been rough for the last 2 years trying to manage our insecurities and lack of sex. Until that fateful day, in a grocery store parking lot the morning after a date night where my mom took the kids. We talked about porn… The talk was sparked by her bringing up how her best friend and her husband use it in a healthy way within their marriage. One thing led to another and we start talking about how our insecurities are driving us apart and preventing us from exploring our sexuality and blossoming sexually in our marriage. Here’s where we start talking about our kinks and what we’re in to. And then it happens. I let out the truth. “You know how you always say ‘you’re just in to big titty fake pornstars?’ Well I’m not. This is what I’m actually in to.” And I show her r/gonewild r/gwcouples r/couplesgonewild etc. and tell her I want to get involved. It turns me on. Her response floored me. “Yes! I’m so in! Oh my god!” I couldn’t believe it. Here we are after years of no porn and hiding our kinks, over night we turn in to the happiest, healthiest couple that is open and sharing everything (including fully exposed sex pictures of our selves with the world)! Last night was our first night of photos, please feel free to peruse them! And we came and came and came together. Until she was so raw she couldn’t handle penetration anymore. Then we turned to reddit and continued masturbating together for a couple more orgasms. There it is folks. Reddit and porn saved the sexual aspect of our marriage. And like most people know, if the sex aspect is failing the marriage isn’t far behind it. Thank you reddit, thank you porn, and thank you to my beautiful sexy wife for being my soul mate and my perfect match! (M)26 & F(28) found our happily ever after