I’m a mediocre confidence coach who has been “teaching” confidence as an optional course at a community college on the west coast for last 2.5 years.
I hate to be reinforcing a stereotype but Asian American girls usually opt for my class at a higher than average rate. So far about 25-30 have taken my course.
Now one of the basics of confidence coaching is that you show confidence by lifting others up (improving their confidence). The course can sometimes bring powerful changes in one’s perception of themselves which can make it a vulnerable time for them as they haven’t fully settled in with their newer more confident version yet.
Over the last 2.5 years I’ve mastered a method to use this to my advantage and to help quell my yellow fever a little bit. If some Asian girl asks for 1:1 coaching or attends office hours, I somehow find a way to bring up that I’ve only dated asian girls (in reality it’s mostly been whites). This adds a sexual tension to subsequent 1:1s. Then I start adding compliments about their looks / body when I’m giving them a pep talk to improve their confidence. Always staying within the limit of being overtly flirtatious but pushing towards that limit more and more every time. When a girl starts seeing me more often after that I know she’s enjoying the attention. I then go for the kill with them.