Shared my wife and may not get her back [MF]

A little background. My wife and I have been married for a little over 9 years. Our sex life has always been great and we decided we were in a good place to spread our proverbial wings a bit. I’m bi, as is she so we aren’t shy about sex. After talking about it we decided finding someone for her would be the route we would enjoy the most. I’ve always thought seeing her with another man would be fun. We discussed a lot of options, from a stranger at the bar to finding someone and becoming friends first. After our discussions finding a nice black man would be fun and is a fantasy that suited both of our needs.

For anyone that has every tried finding a good match in this arena, you already know how difficult it is. Chemistry is important, as well as safety. After six months of looking we found someone that we thought would work out well. The plan was for me to meet him first, discuss the rules and ensure I was comfortable. Then we would bring her in to the conversation to see how it worked for her. This is usually where it failed. On this encounter it finally worked out.