My Wife and I always had a really good sex life, it was the only thing that was good towards the end. It often had a lot of kinks, but mostly led by me, she wasn’t keen on a few things and I never pushed her to do anything, what we did do was amazing anyway.
Almost immediately after we separated and I left (after finding out about her having an affair) she totally changed. She tried to get me round at every opportunity, not trying to hide that she wanted me for sex. But it was the things she suddenly wanted, she wanted and loved lots of the things she’d always been hesitant about trying. I guess this may be a fairly common reaction when separating from long relationships. The sex was far more amazing than it ever had been. Then she confessed to me that she’d always wanted to experience something like being kidnapped or abducted. She was describing cnc although she didn’t know it. We talked about what she liked about the idea and the things that really turned her on were feeling helpless and vulnerable, being used and forced to do anything with no control, but most of all the thought of the fear and panic really turned her on.