I’ve been friends with M for a few months. We spend a lot of time together and may be moving out of “friend with benefits” territory soon, but I’ve always been in monogamous relationships and have enjoyed my freedom lately.
M has a room mate, L, that really didn’t like me at first. She is super awkward and has problems talking to people, so we got off on the wrong foot and I decided to stop trying to be friends with her and just give her polite greetings and nothing else. After a few months she started warming up to me. M had told me L was having trouble dating because her self esteem is low, and I even said “Man, L is super cute and is really interested in lots of stuff. She’s really active. She’s actually a total catch.” I even thought about hooking her up with one of my friends, but didn’t follow through. L started being nicer to me, and I could tell she was happy when she saw me. She ended up doing something super nice for me out of the blue and that gave us something to talk about and connect over.