One Saturday morning a year or so ago I met up in San Francisco with a young woman who I had met on the Reddit BDSM forums. She was a self-described “pain slut”. I’m not really into anything too extreme, but I’m happy to do spanking and stuff like that if my partner wants it.
I like to come up with creative ideas and create experiences that I think match my partners wants and needs and that they may have never done before. I also like to do things that are very intimate, and where there is strong connection between us. I’ve always found things like spanking to be a bit impersonal, as the spankee is often facing away and relatively far you from you. So I came up with an idea that I thought was both intimate, and would fulfil her desire for a bit of pain and submission.
We had of course communicated a lot before the session, gone over good practices, discussed limits, and established safewords. We met in a café beforehand so we could check we were happy with each other before going to my hotel. She had also told a friend what she was doing and arranged to check in with her friend at a set time.