About five years ago, I made an account on FetLife to try hooking up with someone who had the same sex drive as young adult me. It was a friend who recommended that I give it a try, but what they didn’t tell me was the extent on how some of the members on Fetlife are into BDSM. I was just looking for casual sex and one night stands so I was getting the impression that I was looking in the wrong place. Before giving up, I did find one profile, a young woman who seemed pretty tame in comparison. We’ll call her Tamra. She was on the thicker side, would be right at home on r/chubby, but I remember her having really pretty long blond hair and hazel eyes.