As long as I’ve been sexually active I’ve had a problem being faithful in relationships. If a guy wants me and I know it, I want him, even if I have a boyfriend. It’s been an issue that has wrecked countless relationships and I even went to therapy to understand why I was driven to sleep with other men even when I was in a happy relationship, but nothing took away the fact that I enjoyed and craved sex with other guys. It’s something that I’ve talked to boyfriends with in one or two previous relationships where I felt comfortable doing so, but it never fixed the immediate problem – I desired other men, and they weren’t happy with that.
I’m now 30 years old, and have been married for just over a year to Tom – he’s the love of my life, and I couldn’t be happier. When we’d been going out a while I also talked to him about my fidelity issues and we had along talk about it before ultimately leaving it as a bridge we’d cross if we come to it. Oddly (perhaps because I’m older and not out partying every weekend) it’s not a bridge we needed to cross… until it came up in an unexpected way.