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Massage Advice pt 2 – Massage & Videos [Massage]

This is the second of my responses to questions (and some comments) I have received about previous posts. Part one is linked at the bottom.

If you want to become a sensual massage maven, ignore all the videos on Pornhub, et al. Generally speaking, porn is at best a caricature of real life. With very few exceptions, the videos are staged or loosely scripted and in no way represent what happens in a quality sensual massage. A few examples:

First, women are (again, generally speaking) quite different from men. A woman will not typically try to have sex with you just because you rubbed some oil on her skin for a few minutes. I think that should be obvious. The larger point here, however, is that your objective in giving a sensual massage should not be to lure someone into sex. If that is why you are thinking about giving massages, please don’t. You will ruin it for yourself and make it more difficult for the rest of us. Read more »

Massage Advice [MF, Massage]

I have written quite a bit about giving massages. As a result, I’ve had a few questions about technique and other aspects of sensual massage. I thought I’d share some of my answers in case anyone is interested.

The question is, “How do you know when it’s time to transition to the sensual portion of the massage?” In a few of the stories I have mentioned my process of beginning with a traditional massage which brings relaxation and a feeling of well being. Later, I will begin a more sensual touch.

Before I begin my answer, keep in mind, I have only given massages to women. The answer for men could be different. Also, I am not an expert, but I’ve never had any complaints either.

How do you know when it’s time? A general rule of thumb: When you think it’s time, wait a little longer. If you’re going to make a mistake, make it by building up too much, not by not doing it enough. Remember that every second of anticipation just makes the moment sweeter when it finally arrives. Read more »

On Massage, Pleasure & Release [Massage, Orgasm] (Not a story)

“What do you get out of it?” That’s what I’m often asked when the topic of sensual massage comes up. When it comes from a woman it is usually tinged with suspicion. When it comes from a man, there is typically an element of disbelief. I’ve never tried to explain this in writing before, so we’ll see how this goes.

I’m not sure if it is difficult to explain or if it is actually more difficult for others to understand. Maybe it is our culture’s singular focus on release where sexuality is concerned. I don’t have the answers to the “why” questions.

I enjoy giving sensual massages to women. Enjoy is probably not a strong enough word. I savor the experience. I find joy in it. I don’t expect anything in return, which is where the queries begin. I kind of understand the questions from the woman’s perspective. She’s expecting a level of coercion somewhere in the experience. Surely there will be pressure to perform something as payment. Read more »

I’m Not A Bull [M/F, cheating]

I’m not a bull. I don’t enjoy demeaning a man while dominating his wife. I don’t even really think of myself as all that dominant. I have, however, taken the wives of other men, both with and without their knowledge; both with and without their being present. I have never belittled a man while doing so, however, regardless of how little I might think of him.

Is that a distinction without a difference? I don’t think so. My understanding is that the dominance and degrading are a critical part of the bull experience. I have noticed in the last few years a dramatic increase in the number of “beta males” I come across. Men who are passive. By comparison, men who are assertive or openly masculine seem to be more dominant.

I have seen that some women like a man who they can bend to their will. I have also found that some women react quite strongly to a strong, masculine man. I don’t necessarily mean physically, though that is a factor. I’m a fairly burly man. I lift weights regularly and while I’m not a bodybuilder, the strength shows. However, I’m more referring to the masculinity of spirit, so to speak. The man who gets things done, takes what he wants (without being an ass about it) and doesn’t bend to any external pressure. Read more »

Massaging The Boss (MF)

Before I tell you my story, let me preface it with this. I’ve been described as calculating, methodical and shrewd. I’ve earned each of those adjectives at one point or another. This time, however, I did not begin with any ulterior motive. Sometimes fate makes things more interesting than our schemes.

It happened in Dallas on a business trip in the days before I abandoned the corporate world to pursue my creative passions. I hated these excursions to conventions and seminars. I detested the ostentatious displays of superiority as middling players did their best to appear to be among the elite. The only redeeming aspects were the free and very good food and usually opulent accommodations.

This trip was no different. After two days, I was already looking forward to the plane that would be waiting at the airport after I’d endured three more. This day was to be a little amusing, though. Snow brought the city to a near standstill. I don’t mean a snowstorm. It was what is called a “dusting” in the northern climes I’m used to. Not even enough to measure. Read more »

Massage For The misogynist

“I want you to give my wife a massage,” began the email. “She’s a frigid bitch and she never puts out. Though I’m sure she’s a fucking slut when I’m not around.”

I already didn’t like him. I despise the degradation of women. However, I’m always one to hear someone out.

He wanted to arrange a massage for her to get alone and then have the details reported back to him. In his words, “I know the cunt will fuck you. I want to hear what a shitty little slut she is.”

I know sometimes people play with that kind of language. They don’t mean it. It’s a form of role play. It’s not my thing but I try not to judge. But the way he wrote, I got the feeling it was really the way he felt. I arranged to call him to go over details of the proposed massage.

Once he was on the other end of the phone, I knew for sure he was not playing a game. He really despised his wife. I imagine all women are the object of his ire. I agreed to do the massage and to call him afterwards. However, I was sure it would be him who got screwed in the end. Read more »

Translated Skills (MF)(FF)(Massage)

I love giving sensual massages. The things is, I generally only have one person I’m giving massages to at a time. I sometimes place ads looking for a woman who would enjoy a good, quality sensual massage. Sometimes there is only one massage that occurs. More often, however, there will be several over a period of time.

I always take it as a compliment when a lady would like to return for more. It’s also good for her because each subsequent massage will be better than the previous, to a point. No two bodies are alike and no two respond the same. Therefore, the more I learn about a specific woman, the more likely I am to find all the right areas to achieve maximum pleasure.

When I am in the middle of a series, I don’t look for new partners. I enjoy the exploration of the current lady. Sometimes someone I haven’t seen in a while will ask and I usually say yes, so that is an exception to the norm. This process has led to some unique friendships. I’m not seeking any romantic entanglements but there is something about touching another person’s body for a couple of hours that bonds you. Read more »

The Elusive Orgasm [MF] [Massage]

“I haven’t had an orgasm without doing it myself ever,” she wrote. “I’ve always wondered what it would feel like to have one without touching myself.”

She was responding to an ad I had posted specifically for women who had trouble experiencing an orgasm without taking matters into their own hands. After giving many massages, I came to realize how much of a frustration this is for many women. There can be many barriers for a woman and a massage is the perfect way to begin to work toward orgasmic freedom.

A massage is about relaxing the body and the mind and getting in touch with the sensations in your body. That is a real massage, not the random rubbing around some people try to pass off as a massage. An erotic massage or sensual massage takes things further and focuses on bringing sexual pleasure.

Deborah was the woman on the other end of the email. She was definitely interested in the experience and wanted to know more. I explained to her my process and then waited for a response. It was a day later when I heard back. She was still very interested. I could almost hear the yearning for release in her words. She told me a little about herself. 53, married, professional and sexually frustrated most of the time. Read more »

The Most Beautiful Neighbor (MF)

“Awww, hell.”

I muttered it to myself. The most inside of jokes since I was the only one in on it at the moment. It is a nod to one of my favorite movies, “Tombstone.” Wyatt Earp (Kurt Russell) has just told Doc Holiday (Val Kilmer) how he will remain strong despite his attraction to the newly arrived Josephine (Dana Delany). Then she come through the door and Wyatt says that line, “Aww, hell.”

Doc mocks him with a smirk, “Why, Wyatt, you’re a rock.”

I always thought it was a really funny moment. I often said it to my own amusement when happening upon an unexpected beauty. In this instance I walked into my bedroom to open my window to let in a little spring air just as a truly gorgeous woman began descending the stairs that led to the front door of my building. Read more »