45[f] needing more than vanilla 34 [m]

I cheated and fucked the best cock I ever had

Apparently my interest in anything but vanilla bothers my hubby. After I got my g-spot vibrator he seems to think—why more?
Well of course I needed a textured glass dildo to fuck my pussy or ass. And God forbid I mention the anal training kit my former dom(because I got too intimate/crazy/honest while drunk) gave me. Mind you, my ass has been in training for 4 days and I’ve upgraded twice to the bigger size.
No I am not 100% slut but my pussy just wants fucked and my ass is in training. My husband won’t and my dom gave up. Should I keep trying? I mean I might need to explore and end the marriage. Or explore and shut the fuck up. Either way, my pussy is wet and ready and my ass is in training.