**Background**
I (32M) bring you a true story from across the Great Firewall of China. It’s not a crazy story in the sense that I’m not cheating on anyone, it’s not a taboo or fetish and it’s not more than two people having sex. However, the circumstances were rather unusual and I didn’t expect to have sex at all that day..
You see I have a rather tumultuous and toxic relationship with my girlfriend (30F). We both have quite a lot of resentment towards each other and it causes frequent fights which can get quite heated. In her own words (vaguely translated from Chinese), “you are unsatisfied with how I behave because I am unsatisfied with how you are!”… Put more plainly, she thinks I am too short, too poor and too ugly (basically the reverse of the ideal Chinese man “高富帅” that Chinese women hope to marry) to match her.
You might think, “why is she even with you if she thinks that?”, that’s a long story I won’t get into here. But why am I okay with somebody who regularly assaults my self-esteem like that? Well, I’m not *okay* with it exactly, hence the frequent fights, but I put up with it because, frankly, she’s *right.* Short (5ft7) and poor are objective facts I cannot deny. I’m not ugly, but I’m definitely not handsome either. Heck, I’m even a bit overweight (164lbs).